SOC 101 Suffolk University Family and Marriage Discussion & Responses Humanities Assignment Help

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Please answer this discussion based on the attached chapter in a document then make a response to two different answers in a different

Please read chapter 10 before answering the questions-thank you!

This is one of my favorite chapters! Marriage and the Family! There is so much that goes on in this chapter because the ideas/definitions around Marriage and Family are constantly changing. Typically what does not change are who those we consider to be our family. Right way, we need to realize that “family” does not to be blood-related.

-In looking at Family Structures, some forms of the family would be both nuclear (mom, dad, siblings, etc) and extended (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.) To date, forms of marriage in most states is considered a socially approved union for either a heterosexual or homosexual couple. And lastly, the ways in which we date and court would be a combination of connection romantically and cognitively.

-The first and possibly second year of marriage usually is a period of adjustment. Communication is something couples can struggle with no matter how long they have dated or even known each other. Couples may argue over money, how to raise the children and even finding time to spend together.

-When adults first become parents, there can be an adjustment of “new roles” as well. If you ask a parent his or her expectations of becoming a parent before and after the child is born-there seems to be some interesting revelations. The tribulations of pregnancy is something individuals never really prepare for, however a lot of people experience. There is a lot of support for those who undergo such difficulties and hope for the future for those who would like to have children-biologically, through fostering or adoption.

-Some of the challenges that were discussed for families can be hard to read, however this is the reality for so many. Family violence, child abuse and even incest are all perspectives that should continued to be talked through in education. Family violence can be physical or emotional, such as child abuse. To date, both of these are underreported. Some fear their abuser and yet, at the same time love him/her. Child abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional or even spiritual. Incest is an unwanted sexual advance between family members. Research shows that “trust” is very difficult for adult children who underwent this type of behavior in the home. Trust is always earned, never deserved.

-Another challenge discussed was that of separation and divorce. Sometimes children in a divorced families think that the divorce was their fault or that the parents are divorcing them. A lot of children grow up wanting their parents to get back together again even if the marital relationship was not a good match from the start. I do believe in reconciliation and I have witnessed it in my practice as a previous therapist. And yet, I also understand in some cases it can be more abusive for the family unit to stay together.

-Lastly, the chapter concluded with that of care for the eldery. Sometimes older adults can suffer from mistreatment at the hands of either a caregiver or a spouse. This is also underreported and important for us as society to intervene when and if possible.

Insights: What are some other adjustments that a couple can go through their first few years of marriage? What do you think are both positive and negative adjustments?

Self: How can “trust” be earned in any relationship? What are some things that you have experienced that has developed a great sense of trust between you and a parent, friend, employee, etc?

Replay to these two responses:

response one:

Couples who are experiencing their first and second year of marriage commonly experience some adjustments that can both be positive and negative. One adjustment a couple has to make after marriage is trying to make their schedules work that they have time together. It can be difficult having to make two different job schedules and also having time to spend together and progress the marriage. Another adjustment might be if the wife is used to hanging out with her friends on Fridays but the husband wants to stay in or go to dinner, and they have to figure out how to adjust. These adjustments can be positive since it allows for each person to be able to sacrifice and adjust in order to make the marriage work. A negative adjustment might deal with a couple’s social life and how one person doesn’t like the other’s friend and so they might have to spend less time with that friend or it might create tension. A couple’s sex life could also have issues that might cause more problems as well.

Trust is not deserved, it is earned, and there are many things in a relationship that can earn another’s trust. For instance, honesty, respect, actions, and time can all earn someone’s trust. In my life, my parents have earned my trust by being there for me when I need to talk about something private and not sharing it with anyone else. I trusted them because they have always shown me they love me by taking care of me, supporting me, and sharing their feelings with me as well. My boyfriend has earned my trust by telling me what he is doing and sticking to his word over and over again. By not lying or changing the story, I know I can trust him when he tells me things. Trust has definitely been broken between my roommates in the past when they tell me one thing and act in a completely different way. It definitely takes time to regain trust when lies or actions go against someone’s words.

response two:

Insights: What are some other adjustments that a couple can go through their first few years of marriage? What do you think are both positive and negative adjustments?

Usually after a copule gets married, they are in the so called “honeymoon” stage and for the most part, they are still learning a lot about each other and there is still a sense of things being new and exciting. Not in all cases, because every relationship is different, but usually they haven’t had to experience any major challenges together. However, in the first few years, they will likely experience some kind of challenge, whether it is financial, related to a job, or even some kind of personal issue, like possibly addiction or somthing like that. I think that people learn about each other the most when they are facing some kind of challenge. This is especially the case with married couples because they are like a team and have to face these challenges together. One of the positive things about this adjustment is that each person learns more about the other and their relationship can be made stronger if they work together to overcome the challenge. One of the negative things about this adjustment is that challenges will test people and sometimes can bring out the ugly side of someone and some couples may decide that they aren’t as committed to the marriage as they thought.

Self: How can “trust” be earned in any relationship? What are some things that you have experienced that has developed a great sense of trust between you and a parent, friend, employee, etc?

I think that “trust” takes time to build. Being honest is of course important to keeping trust. When someone is dishonest, its an easy way to lose trust. To build trust, I think it is important to be cosistent with following through when you make a committment. This is important for all kinds of relationships, personal and professional, even the relationship between a business and a customer. Another important thing for building or earning trust is by expressing things through action instead of just words. For example, showing someone that you value them by taking actions that require some kind of sacrifice on your part. With friends, one of the things that I think is important for building trust is consistency and being dependable. For example, the friend I trust the most is consistent with following through and I know I can depend on that person. I know that I can rely on my friend and depend on them at I time when I really need their help, like in an emergency.